How To Become More Sociable

We love when you reach out with blog ideas—it makes this space feel even more like a shared journal between friends. One of you recently messaged us saying, “Can you write something about being more social and making friends?” And we instantly felt that little spark because honestly, so many of us are craving connection right now—but don’t always know where to start. So let’s talk about it - without pressure. Just some little thoughts on opening up and letting others in 🌸

Start Small—Little Moments Matter

Being social doesn’t have to mean going out every night or becoming the loudest voice in the room. It can begin with something beautifully simple—like smiling at someone during your daily walk, complimenting someone’s outfit at a café, or replying thoughtfully to a story on Instagram. These little gestures might feel tiny at first, but can later transform into something truly powerful. They build trust, familiarity, and warmth. Social confidence is a muscle—and it grows when we use it, even just a little at a time.

Channel the “That Girl” Personality

You know we love the “That Girl” aesthetic, but let’s take it beyond clean smoothies and matching sets. Let’s apply that energy to how we treat people, too. Being social doesn’t have to mean being the center of attention. It can mean asking someone how their week is going and really listening. It can be offering a compliment without expecting anything back. It can be showing up with a kind heart. When you lead with warmth and sincerity, it invites others to do the same.

Find Safe Spaces That Feel Slightly New

Sometimes the best way to make new friends is to gently place yourself in new spaces—ones that feel exciting but still aligned with your vibe. Think: a cozy book club, a local pottery class, a community Pilates session. It doesn’t have to be a big leap—just a small stretch outside your usual routine. The kind of stretch where you can still wear your cute comfy outfit and bring your iced oat latte. Those environments attract people who already share your energy, which makes connecting that much easier.

Keep the Momentum—But Give Yourself Grace

The truth is, not every attempt will feel perfect. Sometimes you’ll go to an event and leave without clicking with anyone. Sometimes you’ll send a message and get no reply. That’s okay. Social growth isn’t linear, and it shouldn’t feel like pressure. What matters is that you keep the door open. Keep showing up in small ways. Keep texting that friend. Keep RSVPing, even if you’re a little nervous. And when you need a reset—honor that too. Socializing should fill you up, not drain you dry.

Friendship is Self-Care, Too

We often think of self-care as something we do alone: journaling, skincare, long walks. But friendship is part of it, too. Being seen, being heard, laughing until your stomach hurts—those are healing, nourishing experiences. Letting people in (slowly, in your own time) is part of your wellness journey. It’s part of the glow-up. When you surround yourself with people who get you, everything starts to feel a little lighter and a little more joyful.

If you’ve been wanting more connection in your life, you’re not alone. We all crave friendship, laughter, and shared moments. And you don’t need to become anyone else to find that—you just need to keep showing up as your soft, kind, evolving self. Friendships are built in moments, not milestones. Keep saying hi. Keep showing up. Keep trying.

SBS Team 🌸